Have you ever been harmed in your life by having low self-esteem or not feeling capable to do something?
Don’t feel sad, it’s not all right, but will be.
Nowadays is often to find books, classes or even coaches promising to give you a “cure” to low self-esteem. But despite the endless array of articles, programs, and products ensuring to enhance our self-esteem, the reality is that many of them do not work and some are even likely to make us feel worse.
Part of the problem is that our self-esteem is rather unstable, it can alternate by the moment. Further complicating matters, our self-esteem comprises both our global feelings about ourselves as well as how we feel about ourselves in the specific domains of our lives
It is certainly possible to improve our self-esteem if we go about it the right way.
1. The first step is to find out how are these feelings affecting you.
Do you feel that nothing suits you, no clothes work, that everyone will notice your hair, that you have failed or things like that?
One of the main reasons for low self-esteem is a constant feeling of guilt. Whether we are not doing something or what has been done, we often hold back the feeling that we are guilty of the life we are leading. Try to eliminate this feeling by increasingly embracing the lightness of being free beings and that if we are acting harmful to ourselves or to each other, the opportunity for change is present with each new second.
2. Deal with failures as part of life
Failures are necessary. "you've missed, but you've tried" and how great that you are trying. Try to forget and take care of yourself. Tough times improve us and teach us to prevent mistakes in the future.
3. Stop comparing yourself with other people
It's easier to just tell you that, sounds obvious, but it's worth a try. Feeling diminished when faced with another woman's beauty, for example, is not a nice emotion to keep. Each one is beautiful, interesting and happy in its own way - and creating imaginary rankings of people won't get you anywhere.
Surely your life was not only made from mistakes. Just the fact that you exist and are alive is a victory to be celebrated. Make each new goal achieved a positive and contented impulse that will lead you toward your physical and mental balance.
4. Be Grateful
Being grateful has the power to cultivate better experiences. When we see all the good around us, especially the good within us and the actions we do in the world, we are happier and can push ourselves to better attitudes.
5. Identify your competencies and develop them
Self-esteem is built by demonstrating real ability and achievement in areas of our lives that matter to us. If you pride yourself on being a good cook, throw more dinner parties. If you’re a good runner, sign up for races and train for them. In short, figure out your core competencies and find opportunities and careers that accentuate them.
6. Understand what works for you
What makes you feel more confident is practicing an exercise? Learn something new? Do some activity where you already have a domain? Have a closer contact with people?
Find what works for your situation and come back to it whenever you feel your self-esteem diminishing.
7. Know how to choose your friendship/dating
To know how to choose the people you spend your time with, and most of all, what you share with each other, ask yourself: Do you really trust them?
More important than say “be yourself,” this advice should be given more often: pay close attention and choose the people next to whom you will actually act 100% spontaneously.
8. Treat Your Self
Allow yourself a few tidbits once in a while. Even if it is a piece of cake after lunch or maybe that beautiful bodysuit, which is a great deal btw.
Taking care of yourself, your thoughts and your attitudes is something that increases our self-esteem and, consequently, helps you to perform all the activities of your daily routine with more tranquillity, clarity and, of course, confidence.
9. Live in the present
The most important act of growing self-esteem is living in the now. No matter what has already been done or what will happen, what can you do right now to be more confident and happy just by who you are?
Living in the present is the best gift you can give yourself.
10. Affirm your real worth
Make a list of qualities you have that are meaningful in the specific context. For example, if you got rejected by your date, list qualities that make you a good relationship prospect (for example, being loyal or emotionally available); if you failed to get a work promotion, list qualities that make you a valuable employee (you have a strong work ethic or are responsible). Then choose one of the items on your list and write a brief essay (one to two paragraphs) about why the quality is valuable and likely to be appreciated by other people in the future. Do the exercise every day for a week or whenever you need a self-esteem boost.
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Self-esteem is a constant dedication, be the love of your life, feel great, be awesome! Love yourself and you’ll see everything more pretty and colorful.
Much Love ♥